Scorpio Men - Stare/Scare/Be Aware

I'll start with a Scorpio.

I find Scorpio men unnerving. I'm not sure how they do it, but their intense stares always make me feel unsettled. My Aquarian Moon, detached cool emotion sometimes conflicts with my emtional Gemini Sun but when it comes to Scorpio men, the Aquarian Moon wins out eventually. I'll start with being open and almost find myself leaning on them for advice and support. I never mean to, in fact I don't even realise they'd had me doing that for a while, until something bolts me up and I think "how have I given all of that away about myself". I find they will often play games and before you know it, I'm finding myself distrustful again of them.

I think they are very very clever but also very manipulative. I am baffled and confused and at times in awe of how clever / advanced they are. It's got to be the reason why they have the most amount of blogs/websites/forums dedicated to them. Everyone wants to understand them, everyone's had an experience, everyone's had unfinished business (more on that to come).

I've met about hmmm...3 - 5 Scorpio men in my life, either as friends, co-workers, friends' boyfriends etc. My last two bosses have been Scorpio. I watch them carefully from a distance. They are very caring people, that is for sure. Don't cross them, you wont win. The sting they have is very much a part of what you can expect, should you do something that they become angry about.

You should know who you are before talking to a Scorpio. In my experience, they look for the weakness, the uncertainty and then they pray on it. Depending on what their intentions are, they can use it to influence you to their way of thinking - sometimes for good, or they can use it against you and to bring you down, for their advantage.

They stare at you like they NEED to bore into your soul, like they are opening your brain, rummaging around for what they need and then silently, smugly backing away, without telling you what they've taken. You can expect snippets along the way of the future about what they have, but you'll never know what they really took.

THAT'S why I am unnerved. Those Scorpio's have something of mine and they might one day use it and I don't think it's for the greater good. That's the other thing, a Scorpio might seem to be gone but they've left you with enough doubt "really, they've just gone? There's no repurcussion?" that will keep them in the back of your mind forever; this is what they want. The control over you, whether they have you physically or they don't, if they have you even slightly mentally, then they have your secret that they may or may not reveal one day. 

On the plus side of Scorpio men, they are very romantic and observant. They have no problem complimenting you and they do notice things about you that others might overlook. They also appear to genuinely care for you and your welfare and your life. They like to tell you what to do, express their opinions clearly almost like these things are factual not open for your interpretation. "Here's what you should do, because I think this is the best thing and I'll say it in a way where you feel there IS no other option".

I just know too much that these things are stored and vivid in their minds, that you should be careful what you say/let slip.

I have also found Scorpio men, around me this is, not myself personally, that they make you FEEL like they want to say something, like it is always on the tip of their tongue and yet they just don't always say it. They are afraid to make the first move, they need to hear things from you first. Then they are not vulnerable.
They also seem to like to have options, whether they will use them or not. They are very magnetising to the opposite sex, perhaps because they are just out of reach or because they are a mystery of some kind or because they have hinted enough to keep you interested. But ultimately I believe they will sacrifice the one the really really want for the one who pulls them into line. This way, they can keep the contact with the one that got away, they can always insinuate that they are trapped and unable to get out, which ensures a martydom feeling that has the true love pining and pitying but because they are loyal to the one they are with, they will never pull away fully because they have now committed and that is that. The one they are with, either knows they are not the "one" but because of the supposed loyalty and attention from the Scorpion, they dare not leave or they have no idea about their second place rating and remain blissfully unaware.

As a Gemini, unless you have many factors that compliment and can soften the negative aspects, I would stay far far away from a Scorpio man for a partner or indeed a friend actually. And as for a colleague, I will keep my barriers up and not let much out.

:-)